Sadness

What do you do with sadness? 

We all have times we feel sad. How does it go away? When does it go away? Can we make it go away, or does it just take time?

These are a few things I have been pondering. 

Overall, I have not been sad. I have had fleeting moments of sadness wash over me, but I use some of the tools I have and it helps.

However, I have seen a few people on my social media platforms that are really struggling with sadness.

Sometimes I think it's more frustration at first, but then turns to sadness. 

I get some of the frustrations. I don't get them all though, because my situation is not the same as yours.

Even though our situations might be different, how we overcome the frustration or more particularly the sadness is the same.

Some of you are thinking......"oh boy, here she goes again with the #Findyourjoy thing" 

It's true though. When I didn't have that mindset, I was miserable about EVERY LITTLE THING. If the littlest thing happened and I didn't have the control, I was miserable or sad or frustrated.....

I can gauge when this shift happened by just reading my memories on Facebook. I have memories from 8-11 years ago that when I read them I think... "I'm glad I'm not that person today." but...if I wasn't that person, I wouldn't be who I am today. 

For example... many of my posts were about not sleeping well, being tired, being frustrated. They all worked together. I know why I wasn't sleeping. I was worrying. 

Do I have nights where I don't sleep well now? Of course. Most of those times are because of pain, but when I'm focused and get ahead of the pain, I do better. I need to focus on the things that are important. 

Can we make sadness go away? I say Yes. 

Will it take time? It can. I think that depends on what the sadness is based around and your mindset. 

Do we need help with getting past our sadness? Sometimes. Sometimes I can get past my sadness by shifting my focus to something els.  Sometimes I write, sometimes I sing or play piano, sometimes I pray or meditate, sometimes I need to talk to someone.

Most of the time, I truly need to find a joy. Any little joy will help me get started. 

Why did I write this post? am I sad? Sort of. I'm sad for what I am seeing on social media pages. I'm sad that people I know and care about are blankly posting things (out of their frustration I'm sure), that hurt others. 

Pushing your frustration and sadness onto others will not take it away from you. 

You still have to deal with it. 

I would be more than willing to listen, and help, and ask and answer the tough questions , but.... you have to be willing to listen, help, and ask and answer the tough questions too. I won't do this on facebook though. I would rather not do it over the phone either. I want to see you, hear the inflection in your voice, see if it matches your body language. 

If I can't help, then I need to help you find someone who can.

Sadness is real.... we can, do, and should feel it. 

We can move it on its way after we feel it.

The problem comes when you won't try to get rid of it. 

So, please try and find your joy today, start your journey towards being able to feel frustration and sadness, and move it on its way. It will make a huge difference in your life.